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Lady Gaga and the Good News

Lady Gaga was a recent guest on Ellen Degeneres’s talk show, and interestingly enough, she touched on the topic of religion:

                “Pop culture is our religion, and through self-worship (in terms of your identity, through honoring  your identity and really fighting for who you are every single day down to your core) you can have more faith and more hope in life and in the future.”   Lady Gaga to Ellen Degeneres, 7/21/11.

She went on to describe how she spends five minutes a day in meditation, thinking compassionate thoughts about herself.  “Love who you are.  You’re all you’ve got,” Gaga encouraged the audience.

I actually think that, without realizing it, Lady Gaga aptly addressed the issue that has plagued humankind since the Fall.  We want someone to give us value, even as broken and messed up as we are.  We want someone to love us.

Lady Gaga was right that pop culture is a religion for many people.  By this, I mean that we tend to think if we conform to what the media tells us is acceptable, we will be loved and valued.  Usually this involves buying the right jeans or shampoo or car.  Religion implies that we have to do something to receive something, and the concept of relationship is completely missing from the picture.

Unfortunately, her advice to direct compassionate thoughts toward oneself as a means of boosting self-love falls short.  Why?  We all have this built-in need to be approved of and accepted by someone we perceive as greater than ourselves.   Gaga’s advice, while well-intentioned, will never fill that hole.  As C.S. Lewis puts it, what we truly want is “fame” with God:

                “To please God…to be a real ingredient in the divine happiness…to be loved by God, not merely pitied, but delighted in as an artist delights in his work or a father in a son –it seems impossible, a weight or burden of glory which our thoughts can hardly sustain.  But so it is” (Weight of Glory).

When we fully comprehend that we are pleasing to the Father, Son, and Spirit with all of our faults, we finally understand that any self-admiration we might feel for any good we have done will never fill the hole in hearts.  Lewis calls it “the most creaturely of pleasures…the specific pleasure of the inferior:  the pleasure of a beast before men, a child before its father, a pupil before his teacher, a creature before its Creator.”  The beautiful thing is that we already have this “fame” with the Triune God.  We are loved and accepted without reserve, without requirement.

Lady Gaga is to be commended for her kind encouragement to “fight for who you are” and “love who you are,” although I don’t think that self-worship will bring about the hope and healing she speaks of.  Even though she is famous worldwide and fast becoming a pop-culture icon, the good news for Lady Gaga is that she (and we) are already “famous” with God.  And we didn’t have to do a thing.

~by Nan Kuhlman

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